Thursday 25 August 2011

Who Should Pay On A Date - A Debate

By Joel Barnes


Everyone has a different take on the standard question, "Who should pay on a date?". There isn't always a right or wrong answer to this question since it depends on the particular situation.

If and when you are uncertain of what to do, the best course of action is for you offer to pay. Not only will you avoid an embarrassing situation, you will also earn the respect of your partner and both of you will feel comfortable somehow.

Things have definitely changed over the past fifty years. Back then you would never find a women paying for the entire date, it was the male's duty. It showed he respected her and cared for her. The norm really was for the man to ask her out, pick her up, and drop her off.

Nowadays, it's completely different. It's not uncommon to see a girl ask a guy out instead of the other way around. In this scenario, many people believe that whoever asks the other person out should pay. It makes sense; the guy shouldn't have to pay if he isn't interested.

A liberated attitude is one of the effects of the changes in our social standards. If the principle of equal footing is preferred in many social situations, this should be applied to dating, too.

We ultimately have the choice to follow either traditional or modern ways of dating. Both will always have their advantages and disadvantages. As the effects of the modern ways are inevitable, it is always safe to follow one's instincts of doing the right thing.

By tradition, it is the guy who asks a woman to go out with him on a date and to plan, arrange, and pay for all expenses. Men who go with this norm feel comfortable with it although liberated women are known to make the first moves.

However, when on the date and the bill comes, the woman should always offer to pay. By reaching for her purse or saying something, she can make a positive impact on the date.




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